Wednesday, May 27, 2015

A confession from Audrey (taken from page 101 of 'Unbreak Your Marriage - Women's Guide')


If I had a second chance, I would be more present and engaged to my husband. I made so many excuses for being with him, telling him that I had to work.
I was working as an independent editor, and had contracts with two major companies. I worked flexible hours and the conditions were favourable. As a person working from home, I probably should have spent more time to my hands. I chose which projects I wanted to work on and which ones I didn’t. However, this did not give me any advantage. It became my downfall. I made excuses for staying away from real human connections, including my husband, to staying glued to my computer.
I call them excuses, but I know they were lies. I honestly did not have to work seventeen hours per day. I spent most of my time on the internet, chatting with friends and browsing through interesting web pages, calling all of that work.
I often found my husband to be annoying, especially when he walked in from work and would greet me, disturbing me from my simultaneous three or four interesting conversations that I would be in the middle of, with friends I had never met on Facebook.  I would minimize the internet pages and maximize an Editor Application that I would have pre-launched and pretend to be busy working, editing a document. Seeing the look on my face and how “busy” I was, he would keep his conversations short and leave me alone. I always resented him for his insensitivity. At times he would try to hug and kiss me but I would show him that I was really busy trying to make ends-meet for us.
I regret the many times, I avoided and refused intimacy with my husband, with ‘excuses’ that I had a head-ache and my body was too tired from work. I was too obsessed with 'my life' and how I thought I was supposed to live it; make lots of money, have fun, be everything to all people, except the one who really should mean the most to me. I was selfish, and self-absorbed. I wish I could go back and undo the damage.
My husband has now left me. I guess I was the first to leave. I was physically present in the house, but I was unavailable emotionally, mentally, sexually and by any other means.  Instead of living in with me, an unavailable married woman, he left and found human connection where it was available. I am still here, working the long unnecessary hours and married to the internet. I have met the woman he is now living with and though I don’t like her and I think I am far much prettier than her, at least she is available for him.
Now it's too late. My David has moved on. I am angry and resentful most of the time, but when I think about it, in all honesty to myself, I have to admit that I screwed my own marriage. Being emotionally, socially, mentally, and physically unavailable to your spouse is essentially punishing them. I don’t think anyone can bare the punishment of living with an unavailable spouse. I shouldn’t have given the internet the place reserved for my husband. I should have been there for him.

I wish I could change the past. I would block time for the sake of my marriage. I would find time just to be with him. I would talk to him. I would listen to him. Instead of him, having to come home and either cook or get some take out, I would cook for him. If I had a second chance, I would be more present and engaged to my husband.

Serious Blogging!

Okay folks! I know, I know, I know I have been slacking a lot when it comes to blogging. Please accept my humble apologies for that. I have now resolved to start posting here consistently. Please watch this space! I am all in!  ooops! now as I write this post, each time I enter Enter, to start a new paragraph, the battery options of my laptop pop up. A new paragraph is not started :-( Well, I hope the laptop doesn't die now as I start posting here. Anyway, I wish you all a good day wherever you are. Enjoy! 

Wednesday, June 11, 2014

Change of names

Hey everyone.

Just to say and confirm you you all that I have changed the name of this blog and also the name of my Facebook Page. I will explain later as to why. Otherwise, have a great day.

Friday, January 31, 2014

Winners Announcement

Hi,
Today I am announcing the winner of the Unbreak Your Marriage $50 Giveaway.
As you might know, I promised to give away $50 to anyone kind enough to leave a “book review at the Unbreak Your Marriage Amazon book page to help this little debut book reach “Best Seller Status”
Well, a sincere thank you goes out to the 8 kind readers who bought the book over the course of the contest. Yes, 8 awesome people bought the book and 2 went on to post reviews. Of those 2 people, one emailed me and said he was buying the book just to support but did not want to enter the draw.
We climbed a lot of stairs up the Best Seller Status ladder. The book moved from number 85 to 43 in one category and from 100 to 75 in another category. A few sales have been trickling in since the 22nd of January, 2014.
So, if you missed the contest, you can still buy the book at 0.99 cents on Monday 3 February, 2014. After that, I plan to raise the price back to retail (very affordable anyway). You can read the book on your PC, Smart phone, Kindle, or Mac. The book is also available in paperback
If you did leave a review, then your name was listed among the winners.
Watch the video to find out:



Enjoy!!
Brian
Author of Unbreak Your Marriage: Reconnect Your Marriage in 31 Days –Workbook
P.S If you can buy the book or don’t want to buy the book but would like to support me, you can do so by sharing the link to my book on your Facebook wall, Twitter or any other way.



Saturday, December 21, 2013

Unbreak Your Marriage: Recover your Marriage in 31 Days- Intervention Strategy


Are you about to give up on your marriage? Have you already given up? Are you sick and tired of the same old excuses? Would you consider giving your marriage one more chance?

Before its first publication in 2013, Unbreak Your Marriage’s powerful but yet simple intervention principles had helped many couples to reunite and become better individuals and better yet, partners. Author Brian M. reveals simple communication attitudes that help spouses to bond, develop, and become great partners.


Unbreak Your Marriage is a treasure tool for recovering, refining and mending your relationship. So start today, savor the joy of regaining and superseding the marriage you once had.

Excerpt

If your spouse is leaving you, has already left you, wants a divorce, has divorced, is cheating, or shows signs of cheating, if you feel that the love and friendship in your marriage has dried up, died or disappeared, if you are about to give up but would consider to give your marriage just one more chance, then this book is for you.

This is not just a read through book; it is a guide to a 31 day journey that is designed to help you to mend affairs, recover your marriage and get it back to glory road. As you read through and follow the guidelines, you will gain wisdom.

At the time of writing this book, the success rate of using the principles throughout the book stood at 90 percent. The remaining 10 percent belongs to those that would not follow the principles fully. There were those that seemed incapable of following these simple guidelines because of various challenges such as anger, resentment and psychiatric issues. The benefits of halfhearted commitment and communication are obvious. I suggest that you either fully commit to communicate or drop this book.

Communication
Most of us tend to think of communication as just exchanging words or information. Great communication will then be at a 50- 50 level where I say something, I shut up then you say something then you must shut up and the cycle goes on. Unfortunately this is where we err!

Communication is from the Latin word “Communicare” meaning to impart, share or make common. The key root is “mun” and it is related to such words as munificent, community and meaning.-1. So, in this regard when we talk about communication or when you think of communicating, think of it as the science of impartation of yourself! Think of it as you sharing yourself! And think of it as you making yourself common to whoever you are communicating with. This does not work at a 50- 50 level. It demands 100 percent of you. It is either 100 percent or nothing. Halfhearted communication doesn’t get you anywhere.

WHERE CAN YOU DIRECTLY GET THIS BOOK?
1. All Amazon Sites. Amazon.com, Amazon.co.uk,
2. CreateSpace.com on this link

Monday, November 18, 2013

Preparations for Zimbabwe

Hi everyone!

Just to say I am still preparing for my trip to Zimbabwe. I am supposed to arrive there in the first week of December and Your help in any way will go a long way. You can help by sharing or inviting some of your friends to join this blog. You can also help by donating any amount of money through the donate button or you can donate recurring donations through the subscriptions button. Please read the Connect and support tab for more details